Episode 27: Your Relationship with You
February 7, 2023
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Episode Summary:
In this episode, I unpack what it means to have a relationship with yourself and share some strategies to foster a more loving connection.
Show Notes:
When you’re able to accept and love yourself for who you are in the present moment, feelings like happiness, joy, and contentment come a lot easier. There’s also less resistance around building habits that support your goals and working through mindset challenges.
If that’s the case, then why are we so quick to neglect our relationship with ourselves? In this episode, I unpack what it means to have a relationship with yourself and share some strategies to foster a more loving connection.
I recap why using willpower to fix a problem never works, and explain how to instead work with your brain to make sustainable changes. I highlight some examples of why the all-or-nothing approach can hold you back from making progress and practicing integrity with yourself. Plus, I talk about ways to uncover the stories that you believe about yourself and work on rewiring any negative internal dialogue.
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or on your favorite podcast platform.
Topics Covered:
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Why I believe the relationship you have with yourself is the most important one in your life
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The benefits of having a more loving, supportive relationship with yourself
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Training your brain to look for positive attributes instead of negative ones
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The importance of keeping promises to yourself and allowing space for flexibility
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Tips for creating a belief plan and commitment to ‘future you’
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About Your Host
I’m Cecelia, and I am passionate about helping people live the life they want to live and feel how they want to feel in their life. We do this together using mindset tools, nervous system regulation, and curious inquiry. I know that enjoying your life, feeling calm and even joyful is available to you.
If you’re ready to start right now, grab a recent workshop replay here on creating momentum.
Personally, I manifest in many ways- partner, mother, coach, sister, friend, daughter, citizen, feminist. I live with my husband and children way downeast Maine on a little bridge-connected island (after spending my first 35 years in cities). It’s beautiful here with the ocean and the wind.
I help my clients make big and small changes in life one step at a time.
No matter what’s happening in your life right now, I know you can feel different. I know that by working with your brain and nervous system, you can feel calm, content, joyful, AND you can still go after the big and small goals in your life (getting there will just feel different).
This process is simple and approachable.
You’re probably thinking- but it won’t work for me. I’ve tried it all or I was recently diagnosed with ADHD or I’m too old. But I promise, if you’re open to it, this work is not only transformative but suited for so many different kinds of people and brains.
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