Episode 26: It’s not the Circumstance’s Fault
January 31, 2023
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26. It’s Not The Circumstance’s Fault
Episode Summary:
It can feel disempowering when your emotional state is dependent on external circumstances or people’s behaviors that are completely outside of your control. But, when you start to bring awareness and acceptance to your thoughts and intentionally shift the narrative, your lived experience can completely change.
Show Notes:
When you’re feeling any sort of emotion, how often do you attribute that feeling to something outside of yourself? Most of us do this often and aren’t even aware of it.
It can feel disempowering when your emotional state is dependent on external circumstances or people’s behaviors that are completely outside of your control. But, when you start to bring awareness and acceptance to your thoughts and intentionally shift the narrative, your lived experience can completely change.
This process isn’t meant to promote toxic positivity or bypass yourself. Rather, I invite you to practice choosing different truths that already exist within you. When you do this, you can focus your energy on the areas that you can actually control, like your thoughts and beliefs.
My challenge for you this week is to try this technique the next time you’re blaming something outside of yourself for how you’re feeling. I share some techniques in the episode to recognize patterns and create intentional solutions. I’d love to hear from you if you try it out ー DM me on Instagram and let me know!
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Topics Covered:
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Examples of how common it is to look outside of yourself to create your feelings
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Why trying to exert more control over a situation doesn’t typically work
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Liberating yourself from the stories that keep you stuck
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My four-step process for emotional empowerment
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A simple way to test whether a situation or your thoughts are creating how you feel
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About Your Host
I’m Cecelia, and I am passionate about helping people live the life they want to live and feel how they want to feel in their life. We do this together using mindset tools, nervous system regulation, and curious inquiry. I know that enjoying your life, feeling calm and even joyful is available to you.
If you’re ready to start right now, grab a recent workshop replay here on creating momentum.
Personally, I manifest in many ways- partner, mother, coach, sister, friend, daughter, citizen, feminist. I live with my husband and children way downeast Maine on a little bridge-connected island (after spending my first 35 years in cities). It’s beautiful here with the ocean and the wind.
I help my clients make big and small changes in life one step at a time.
No matter what’s happening in your life right now, I know you can feel different. I know that by working with your brain and nervous system, you can feel calm, content, joyful, AND you can still go after the big and small goals in your life (getting there will just feel different).
This process is simple and approachable.
You’re probably thinking- but it won’t work for me. I’ve tried it all or I was recently diagnosed with ADHD or I’m too old. But I promise, if you’re open to it, this work is not only transformative but suited for so many different kinds of people and brains.
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