Episode 25: Working with Self-Sabotage
January 24, 2023
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25. Working with Self-Sabotage
Episode Summary:
Self-sabotage is when people do or don’t do things that block their success and prevent them from accomplishing their goals. It’s not about circumstances, but rather the active choices we make to resist growth. In today’s episode, I break down why we self-sabotage, the four most common ways that this cycle occurs, and solutions to break out of the pattern.
Show Notes:
Self-sabotage is when people do or don’t do things that block their success and prevent them from accomplishing their goals. It’s not about circumstances, but rather the active choices we make to resist growth. In today’s episode, I break down why we self-sabotage, the four most common ways that this cycle occurs, and solutions to break out of the pattern.
In short, your primitive brain wants you to maintain the status quo, even if your prefrontal cortex is committed to success. It might look like procrastinating, quitting, not setting goals, or distracting yourself with other activities. But, you can start to work with your brain to shift into a mindset that actually favors growth over complacency.
The first step is to actively decide to not self-sabotage. I share some exercises and practices to support that decision, like creating more safety in your nervous system and re-establishing your identity. If you’re currently in a self-sabotage cycle or have a history of it, tune into this episode and let me know what resonates with you.
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or on your favorite podcast platform.
Topics Covered:
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What self-sabotage is and some common examples of what it looks like
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Choosing short-term discomfort for long-term pleasure
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Why doubt generally feels better than growth when we’re in this place of self-sabotage
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How to manage expectations and create acceptance before you’ve achieved your goals
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Questions to ask yourself to get really curious about your relationship with self-sabotage
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About Your Host
I’m Cecelia, and I am passionate about helping people live the life they want to live and feel how they want to feel in their life. We do this together using mindset tools, nervous system regulation, and curious inquiry. I know that enjoying your life, feeling calm and even joyful is available to you.
If you’re ready to start right now, grab a recent workshop replay here on creating momentum.
Personally, I manifest in many ways- partner, mother, coach, sister, friend, daughter, citizen, feminist. I live with my husband and children way downeast Maine on a little bridge-connected island (after spending my first 35 years in cities). It’s beautiful here with the ocean and the wind.
I help my clients make big and small changes in life one step at a time.
No matter what’s happening in your life right now, I know you can feel different. I know that by working with your brain and nervous system, you can feel calm, content, joyful, AND you can still go after the big and small goals in your life (getting there will just feel different).
This process is simple and approachable.
You’re probably thinking- but it won’t work for me. I’ve tried it all or I was recently diagnosed with ADHD or I’m too old. But I promise, if you’re open to it, this work is not only transformative but suited for so many different kinds of people and brains.
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