Episode 22: How to Set a Goal

January 24, 2023

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22. How to Set a Goal

Episode Summary: 

I have a five-step framework for setting goals that works with your brain and nervous system to create sustainable change. The reason why so many people have trouble meeting their New Year’s resolutions is because they rely on shaming and judging themselves to get there. But, what if you could love yourself and feel happiness along the way? Listen in to hear about my process for setting goals and why it works to support your success. 

Show Notes:

I have a five-step framework for setting goals that works with your brain and nervous system to create sustainable change. The reason why so many people have trouble meeting their New Year’s resolutions is because they rely on shaming and judging themselves to get there. But, what if you could love yourself and feel happiness along the way? 

In order to reach your goals, you have to start digging deeper than the actual accomplishment. You’ll most likely find that you’re chasing a feeling by pursuing a certain milestone. Maybe you want a promotion so that you feel validated in your career, or perhaps you want to lose 10 pounds so that you feel confident in your body. 

In this episode, I share how to set goals that align with your values and get in touch with your ‘why.’ I explain the difference between a belief plan and an action plan, and highlight why it’s so important to prepare for obstacles. I also talk about the role of failure when it comes to success, which is something that’s often ignored. 

Listen in to hear about my process for setting goals and why it works to support your success. 

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or on your favorite podcast platform. 

Topics Covered:

  • What I find lacking in traditional goal-setting practices

  • Getting clear on how you want to feel once you reach your goal 

  • The feedback loop of belief and evidence 

  • Creating safety for yourself to make mistakes and fail 

  • Why your future outcomes are not dependent on your past performance

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About Your Host

I’m Cecelia, and I am passionate about helping people live the life they want to live and feel how they want to feel in their life. We do this together using mindset tools, nervous system regulation, and curious inquiry. I know that enjoying your life, feeling calm and even joyful is available to you.

If you’re ready to start right now, grab a recent workshop replay here on creating momentum.

Personally, I manifest in many ways- partner, mother, coach, sister, friend, daughter, citizen, feminist. I live with my husband and children way downeast Maine on a little bridge-connected island (after spending my first 35 years in cities). It’s beautiful here with the ocean and the wind.

I help my clients make big and small changes in life one step at a time.

No matter what’s happening in your life right now, I know you can feel different. I know that by working with your brain and nervous system, you can feel calm, content, joyful, AND you can still go after the big and small goals in your life (getting there will just feel different).

This process is simple and approachable.

You’re probably thinking- but it won’t work for me. I’ve tried it all or I was recently diagnosed with ADHD or I’m too old. But I promise, if you’re open to it, this work is not only transformative but suited for so many different kinds of people and brains.

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