Episode 17: Making Mistakes
January 24, 2023
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17. Making Mistakes
Episode Summary:
Mistakes are an integral part of the human experience, but we tend to have a low tolerance for them. Listen in to learn how you can retrain your default response for when things don’t go as planned.
Show Notes:
Mistakes are an integral part of the human experience, but we tend to have a low tolerance for them. What happens in your brain and body when you make an error? If you’re anything like I was, you might feel a pit in your stomach and your thoughts start to spiral. Many of us subscribe to this story that we’re incapable of success or unworthy of happiness when we make a mistake.
When you start to notice that pattern, you have an opportunity to acknowledge it and choose something different. In this episode, I share an exercise to support you in creating more space in your life for exploration. I illustrate how I recently used this practice after a mistake that I made and highlight how my reaction today is radically different from what it was before.
Instead of getting bogged down by the limiting beliefs that our brain tells us, we can jump into solution-based thinking instead. This allows us to learn from our mistakes in a loving way and create sustainable change. Listen in to learn more about how you can retrain your default response for when things don’t go as planned.
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Topics Covered:
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Checking in with your nervous system and cognitive responses after you make a mistake
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Tangible ways to create more safety for yourself
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How certain childhood beliefs about mistakes subconsciously show up in adulthood
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Learning from your actions from a place of curiosity instead of judgment
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About Your Host
I’m Cecelia, and I am passionate about helping people live the life they want to live and feel how they want to feel in their life. We do this together using mindset tools, nervous system regulation, and curious inquiry. I know that enjoying your life, feeling calm and even joyful is available to you.
If you’re ready to start right now, grab a recent workshop replay here on creating momentum.
Personally, I manifest in many ways- partner, mother, coach, sister, friend, daughter, citizen, feminist. I live with my husband and children way downeast Maine on a little bridge-connected island (after spending my first 35 years in cities). It’s beautiful here with the ocean and the wind.
I help my clients make big and small changes in life one step at a time.
No matter what’s happening in your life right now, I know you can feel different. I know that by working with your brain and nervous system, you can feel calm, content, joyful, AND you can still go after the big and small goals in your life (getting there will just feel different).
This process is simple and approachable.
You’re probably thinking- but it won’t work for me. I’ve tried it all or I was recently diagnosed with ADHD or I’m too old. But I promise, if you’re open to it, this work is not only transformative but suited for so many different kinds of people and brains.
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