Episode 13: Two Things You (probably) Do
January 24, 2023
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13. Two Things You (Probably) Do
Episode Summary:
There are two things that you probably do that are keeping your experience of happiness smaller than maybe it could be in your life. The first one is engaging with thoughts and beliefs that don’t serve you and the second one is being unwilling to feel certain feelings. In this episode, I illustrate examples of how these concepts can show up in your life and explain how you can start to shift out of the narratives that are keeping you stuck.
Show Notes:
There are two things that you probably do that are keeping your experience of happiness smaller than maybe it could be in your life. The first one is engaging with thoughts and beliefs that don’t serve you and the second one is being unwilling to feel certain feelings. In this episode, I illustrate examples of how these concepts can show up in your life and explain how you can start to shift out of the narratives that are keeping you stuck.
For many of us, our inner-dialogue can convince us of anything. Even though our thoughts might not be our reality, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. When our thoughts and beliefs feel like facts, they become so ingrained that it becomes difficult to question them. I break down two examples of this concept that are really prevalent in our society and share how we can start to reframe those thought patterns.
The other thing that I’ve noticed a lot of my clients struggle with is avoiding the hard-to-feel feelings and creating buffers around them. Everyone has the ability to intentionally create safety in their nervous system and body, but it can be an uncomfortable experience. It requires a level of self-awareness and a willingness to work through limiting beliefs. Hopefully with the examples that I share in this episode, you can see that it’s entirely possible and worth the effort.
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Topics Covered:
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Imagining what would happen in your life if your thought and beliefs aligned with how you wanted to feel
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Why action plans don’t work (and what to do instead)
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What happens when you start to actually feel your feelings
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Why shaming and judging yourself doesn’t work for creating sustainable change in your life
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Tools to increase your ability to feel discomfort and process feelings
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About Your Host
I’m Cecelia, and I am passionate about helping people live the life they want to live and feel how they want to feel in their life. We do this together using mindset tools, nervous system regulation, and curious inquiry. I know that enjoying your life, feeling calm and even joyful is available to you.
If you’re ready to start right now, grab a recent workshop replay here on creating momentum.
Personally, I manifest in many ways- partner, mother, coach, sister, friend, daughter, citizen, feminist. I live with my husband and children way downeast Maine on a little bridge-connected island (after spending my first 35 years in cities). It’s beautiful here with the ocean and the wind.
I help my clients make big and small changes in life one step at a time.
No matter what’s happening in your life right now, I know you can feel different. I know that by working with your brain and nervous system, you can feel calm, content, joyful, AND you can still go after the big and small goals in your life (getting there will just feel different).
This process is simple and approachable.
You’re probably thinking- but it won’t work for me. I’ve tried it all or I was recently diagnosed with ADHD or I’m too old. But I promise, if you’re open to it, this work is not only transformative but suited for so many different kinds of people and brains.
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