Episode 12: The Foundation of Happiness
January 24, 2023
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12. The Foundation of Happiness
Episode Summary:
I consider the relationship you have with yourself to be the foundation of happiness. It determines everything that you create in your life and how you approach the world. In today’s episode, I break down what it might look like if your self-concept leaves you feeling stuck or like something just isn’t right in your life, and I share the four main strategies that I use to help people shift their self-confidence and create a more solid relationship with themselves.
Show Notes:
I consider the relationship you have with yourself to be the foundation of happiness. It determines everything that you create in your life and how you approach the world. In today’s episode, I break down what it might look like if your self-concept leaves you feeling stuck or like something just isn’t right in your life, and I share the four main strategies that I use to help people shift their self-confidence and create a solid relationship with themselves.
Does your job title or the car you drive really deliver the happiness that you thought it would? Perhaps for a little bit, but in order to create long-lasting satisfaction, you have to search inside of yourself instead of seeking external validation. I illustrate common situations that my clients experience, like overcommitting, having trouble making decisions, and struggling with a high sense of guilt. I get into some of the things that you have to be willing to do to solve these problems and how to get started with working through comfortable with hard-to-feel emotions.
Listen in to learn more about how to cultivate a more loving and fulfilling relationship with yourself and how you can get started with that inner-work today.
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or on your favorite podcast platform.
Topics Covered:
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Why I consider the relationship you have with yourself to be the foundation of happiness
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Defining your own standards of success
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What happens when you undervalue your relationship with yourself
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Common ways that people buffer or avoid their emotions
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Ways to separate your human value from your accomplished value
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About Your Host
I’m Cecelia, and I am passionate about helping people live the life they want to live and feel how they want to feel in their life. We do this together using mindset tools, nervous system regulation, and curious inquiry. I know that enjoying your life, feeling calm and even joyful is available to you.
If you’re ready to start right now, grab a recent workshop replay here on creating momentum.
Personally, I manifest in many ways- partner, mother, coach, sister, friend, daughter, citizen, feminist. I live with my husband and children way downeast Maine on a little bridge-connected island (after spending my first 35 years in cities). It’s beautiful here with the ocean and the wind.
I help my clients make big and small changes in life one step at a time.
No matter what’s happening in your life right now, I know you can feel different. I know that by working with your brain and nervous system, you can feel calm, content, joyful, AND you can still go after the big and small goals in your life (getting there will just feel different).
This process is simple and approachable.
You’re probably thinking- but it won’t work for me. I’ve tried it all or I was recently diagnosed with ADHD or I’m too old. But I promise, if you’re open to it, this work is not only transformative but suited for so many different kinds of people and brains.
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