Episode 2: Creating Happiness
October 2, 2022
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Episode Summary:
Many of us have been taught to surrender our power over how we feel to other people and what’s happening in the world around us. But, the reality is that we’re entirely responsible for neutralizing our thoughts and reactions. On today’s episode, I dive into where happiness and other emotional states come from and share ways to practice non-judgmental curiosity about your feelings.
Show Notes:
Many of us have been taught to surrender our power over how we feel to other people and what’s happening in the world around us. But, the reality is that we’re entirely responsible for neutralizing our thoughts and reactions. On today’s episode, I dive into where happiness and other emotional states come from and share ways to practice non-judgmental curiosity about your feelings.
Brain chemistry and a propensity to happiness play a large role in our emotions, but it’s just one piece of a very large puzzle. Learning how to step into what’s available for your emotional wellbeing is a challenging, yet extremely empowering process. We usually attribute our feelings to our environment, but what’s really happening is that we have a thought about people or their actions, which creates a feeling in our body that our brain translates to mean something.
For example, when someone cuts you in line at the supermarket, you’ve been conditioned to think that cutting the line is wrong, so it feels like a personal attack. Your thoughts jump to feeling frustrated, provoked, and annoyed. The good news is, there’s a lot of work that can be done to neutralize those thoughts and own your emotions. Listen in to learn more about that process and how to get started on your self-study journey.
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Topics Covered:
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Debunking the myth that outside circumstances determine how you feel
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Recognizing when and why you’re trying to control other people and the world around you
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Being honest with yourself about the thoughts and beliefs that you hold around people’s behaviors
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Undoing the subconscious training that we have around imposter syndrome and people-pleasing tendencies
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Questions to help guide your reflections around your emotions and reactions
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About Your Host
I’m Cecelia, and I am passionate about helping people live the life they want to live and feel how they want to feel in their life. We do this together using mindset tools, nervous system regulation, and curious inquiry. I know that enjoying your life, feeling calm and even joyful is available to you.
If you’re ready to start right now, grab a recent workshop replay here on creating momentum.
Personally, I manifest in many ways- partner, mother, coach, sister, friend, daughter, citizen, feminist. I live with my husband and children way downeast Maine on a little bridge-connected island (after spending my first 35 years in cities). It’s beautiful here with the ocean and the wind.
I help my clients make big and small changes in life one step at a time.
No matter what’s happening in your life right now, I know you can feel different. I know that by working with your brain and nervous system, you can feel calm, content, joyful, AND you can still go after the big and small goals in your life (getting there will just feel different).
This process is simple and approachable.
You’re probably thinking- but it won’t work for me. I’ve tried it all or I was recently diagnosed with ADHD or I’m too old. But I promise, if you’re open to it, this work is not only transformative but suited for so many different kinds of people and brains.
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