Episode 23: Why Can’t I …..
January 24, 2023
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23. Why Can’t I…
Episode Summary:
Your thoughts and feelings drive your action. Once you can really identify and articulate what you’re experiencing, you can unlock all of these different elements of your life that have otherwise felt inaccessible. In this episode, I share different modalities that can be helpful in this process and unpack how this concept works with real-world examples.
Show Notes:
When we set a goal, we typically use willpower to drive our actions. But, what happens when life gets in the way? I was caught in this loop for so many years where I would feel motivated to exercise every day, eat food that made my body feel good, and avoid drinking alcohol, but then I hit a wall. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t just continue to thrive in all areas of my life.
What I didn’t realize is that willpower is a limited resource. It works against your brain and nervous system, which eventually leads to burn out. The solution is to start paying attention to your thoughts and feelings instead of relying on discipline. Once you can identify what’s going on in your mind, you can start to shift your perspective and create sustainable changes.
Your thoughts and feelings drive your action. Once you can really identify and articulate what you’re experiencing, you can unlock all of these different elements of your life that have otherwise felt inaccessible. In this episode, I share different modalities that can be helpful in this process and unpack how this concept works with real-world examples.
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or on your favorite podcast platform.
Topics Covered:
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My previous experiences with willpower and motivation
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Tools to identify and visualize your thoughts and feelings
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How to make it easier to take the action that you want
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Getting to a place where you feel happy and satisfied with the choices you make
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About Your Host
I’m Cecelia, and I am passionate about helping people live the life they want to live and feel how they want to feel in their life. We do this together using mindset tools, nervous system regulation, and curious inquiry. I know that enjoying your life, feeling calm and even joyful is available to you.
If you’re ready to start right now, grab a recent workshop replay here on creating momentum.
Personally, I manifest in many ways- partner, mother, coach, sister, friend, daughter, citizen, feminist. I live with my husband and children way downeast Maine on a little bridge-connected island (after spending my first 35 years in cities). It’s beautiful here with the ocean and the wind.
I help my clients make big and small changes in life one step at a time.
No matter what’s happening in your life right now, I know you can feel different. I know that by working with your brain and nervous system, you can feel calm, content, joyful, AND you can still go after the big and small goals in your life (getting there will just feel different).
This process is simple and approachable.
You’re probably thinking- but it won’t work for me. I’ve tried it all or I was recently diagnosed with ADHD or I’m too old. But I promise, if you’re open to it, this work is not only transformative but suited for so many different kinds of people and brains.
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